I went out to a concert with a friend of mine during the week. (He bought me the ticket as a belated birthday present) Afterwards he walked me back to my car (I asked him to because it was dark and what have you - it's scary being a young woman walking around alone at night) However, things got really weird... I am married to and trying for a baby with the man of my dreams whom I love and adore. He is in a defacto relationship. He is a long term friend whom I trust and can really talk to. So anyway, we get back to my car and we stand there for a while chatting and it just got really weird... He was looking me the way my husband looks me, with such love and adoration and he was talking really quietly and softly and it felt like he was.moments away from attempting to kiss me. It is not a new development... He has had feelings for me in the past but I've been with my man for longer then I've known this friend. My husband does not trust him... And after this night I'm not sure I do either... I really enjoy hanging out with him and gaming and what have you... But it just gets so awkward... How do I deal with this situation?! I honestly feel that if we were both single he'd be all over me... I don't want to loose this friendship because it's not every day you make friends who you can literally tell anything to... Please help!
Please think of your marriage, and put your husband first. I would suggest never allowing yourself to be alone with another man in a social setting, other than your husband. I know that sounds extreme, but I've been there. I know how temptations can suddenly arise. Please, do this favor for your husband. I would also suggest you stick with girlfriends for the close talk and advice, not another man. It's a slippery slope into an emotional affair. Life gets stressful in a marriage, and it's easy to lean on someone else when complaints arise (as they do in any marriage), but please call or visit with a girlfriend, do not turn to another man. Please do not bridge relationships with other single men. It's playing with fire. Things can happen and before you know it you're looking back regretting it all and wishing you can take it back. Love your husband by giving up close friendships with other men. There will be times when you are out as couples and get close with other men, but as long as you are not alone with them, or even alone on the phone or internet, you should be ok. You don't really know what the other mans intentions are, and it's possible that he is waiting and hoping that your husband and you will have a fight, and he will be the shoulder to lean on. Don't go there. I'm telling you, it's dangerous. Always put your husband first, and give him your thoughts, energy, and time. Your husband, just knowing that you are at a concert with another man may cause strife and reason to doubt in your relationship. Your husband may suspect that your man friend likes you too much, and imagine how he must feel and worry thinking about you two out together. Please do everything to show love to your husband by not putting him through that. And think of how you would feel if he went out with another woman who you suspects likes him too much. Would you appreciate it? I know I wouldn't. I'm sorry to be so frank, but this is serious, and you deserve a straight answer. Please let your man friend go. Period. You made vows to your husband, not to the friend, Please stick with those vows by showing love and honor to your husband, and not ever going out alone with another man. Thank you for listening. I wish you the best.
Put your husband first think about him first get a friend who is a female never tell another man everything because he may use that to his advantage since he has feelings for you when you have a argument or disagreement with your husband he will be there and try to ease his self in that place and it can start an affair and you will later regret it can also cause problems with your husband also if you do get a friend who is a female don't tell her about your problems in your marriage because she might do the same and get close to your husband and do the same thing if you do remain friends with him never be alone with him because a friend, family member or co worker of your husband may see and take it the wrong way and tell your husband and he may think he can't trust you and that your having an affair also tell your husband what happened never keep secrets in a marriage he needs to know what happened. Also look at it from your husbands point of view how would you feel if your husband had a female friend that you didn't trust and didn't want him being friends with Good Luck do what you think is best have a happy and wonderful marriage