For the past three ish weeks, I have had long, vivid, convoluted dreams every time I sleep (even naps). They almost always revolve around romantic or erotic situation between myself and some man or men who are NOT my boyfriend of 3 years. I always think about them during the day and I almost feel like I'm cheating? By having 'fantasies ' about other men... but there's nothing I can do about my dreams. Why is this happening? IS there a way to stop this?
Note: these dreams have not been making me feel less rested or had any real physical consequences. I'm just worried about my relationship.
Why am I having long convoluted dreams?
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- 3+ months ago by Lola1223
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If you think about something while awake, you will most likely have a dream related to your waking thoughts at night. That is why you dream about it.
When you are in a relationship, say, husband and wife, both people will love eachother but they may find someone other than their partner more atractive, such as a celebrity. This is very normal and most people accept it. When you have a romantic dream, you would likely dream about a good looking person because that is who you would naturally want to be with. Looks are not as important as personality in a relationship. This is why you are with your boyfriend: because you like his personality. And so you are not cheating on him by thinking about other men because that's your natural instints: to find the strongest male and reproduce with him. With humans it's different because personality is what matters more. So don't be too concerned with it. If you want you can also see a couslor and ask them.
Dreams are not a crystal ball foretelling our future or what we want our future to be. If you aren't in therapy with a psychologist or psychiatrist trained to translate dreams because they know you very well and what's happening in your life then you can forget it. Dreams are symbolic and abstract. You could see someone slip and fall on a banana peel then dream about a small yellow car pulling up and a clown falling down getting out of it.
Or something even more abstract than that. Dont worry about it. Worrying and assuming and you could set yourself up for problems that the dreams have nothing to do with.
It's up to you wether or not you want to tell this to your boyfriend, but if you do, let him know you don't desire these dreams and that you love him more. Are you taking any un natural medication-stop, some medicines can affect you in your sleep. A pastor took some cold medicine and woke up ith a knife in his hand and his wife was dead. My mom took some medicine and had the most gory dream imagineable. Try to think about something else.
