My best friend & I are planning a vacation to Britain, but it won't be until Sept/Oct/2020.
I can't get excited about something so far away, but my friend brings it up frequently.
I respect the fact that she has to save, but this isn't the issue, really. I do have some health issues which she's aware of, although they are not serious. Frankly, I can't get excited about something that's so far away., so I don't talk about it very much. In all honestly, I couldn't care less whether I go or not. It's such a long flight (over 7 hrs).Although she doesn't mean anything by it, she always says..."I want to do this, I want to do that"., with the emphasis on "I". What about what I'd like to do?
We're not teenagers, we're older women. Again, I'm in a place where if the trip didn't happen, it wouldn't upset me. This trip will be very costly, & I've told her about this already.
Should I stay quiet or say something???
Should I stay quiet, or say something?
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- 3+ months ago by chatterbox
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- friend, vacation, planning, away, quiet, stay, fars, britain, friends, best friend
Answers (3)
I think it is a good idea of your friend to get excited and look forward to a trip of a lifetime. Maybe she can infect you a bit with her excitement, that might help you with your depression that you are fearing is happening. I think you shouldn't burst her happy bubble, she would get upset, would see it as a "don't you want to go"? Why don't you instead sit down with her and go through what things you would both be interested in seeing in Britain?
YES it is a good idea for my friend to get excited. This is not a trip of a lifetime for her or me. We went to Italy just this past July. I'm not going to burst her bubble, not at all.
I can't get excited about something that's not going to happen for more than 1 1/2 years. Also, as I mentioned in my post; I don't like the I WANT rather than I'd LIKE.
It feels as though she's trying to control what we do.
Thanks for the comments. You've been helpful.
You should say something about it. You two are friends and planning the activities should not be always about her besides your not her chaperon. And let your friends know that you are getting irritated about it and yeah its like 2 yrs from now. Plan for the present or at least talk about it if its only weeks before the travel.
I suggested to her quite recently, that if the trip to Britain is going to be too expensive, perhaps we could consider going elsewhere. To that she said..."NO! I WANT to go to England".