Been dating for 8months now. I love her very much and I honestly believe that
she feels the same way. We live a good hour away from each other but we manage to spend every night together. She was married for a year out of a three year relationship with her ex. We have never seen each other but he does know who I am and that I've been dating her. Her parents or other family does not know anything about me. She has met my family and friends. If she loves me wouldn't her family know bout me? How do I know she is serious about us? And how do I deal with her .ecex husband who still wants her back, an calls texts? I'm 99% sure she doesn't want him back. What do I do? Run?
Why am I a secret?
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- 3+ months ago by rigs82
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The only one who can really answer this question is her. Have you asked her? I can only guess at possibilities. One, are you of a different religion, race or nationality? She obviously isn't worried about any differences but maybe she's concerned that her parents will be. Two, how long has she been out of her previous relationship? Maybe she is concerned they will think it's too soon to be in another serious relationship. Three, does she talk about her family? Could she be embarrassed of them? You are assuming it's about you but it could be about them instead. Four, do you know if her family disliked her ex(s)? There could be a pattern of them disliking some, many, all of her past relationships and she just wants to avoid dealing with that.
I'm not saying it couldn't be about you just that it might be about them. I suggest you be open and honest. Just ask her. Let her know that you would like to meet her family. Let her know exactly how keeping you a secret makes you feel. Be calm and reassuring but let her know that you would like to take the relationship public. Think (in advance of starting the conversation) about how you would feel if it is about her family and if any of the things listed above are the reasons. Be prepared to face her answers even if you don't like them. What is a deal breaker for you? Are you willing to stand behind her and your relationship if her family is against it?
But like I said, this is all just conjunctur on my part. If you want real answers you'll have to get them from her.
Best of luck to you!