I have custody over my little brother. He is lazy. I hear thats how most boys his age are. Video games,eat and sleep. He has two chores,wash the dishes and trash, also take a shower. Taking a shower has alway been a struggle. I gave give 25 pushups to do because he Didnt take a shower yesterday.He's never wanting anything to do with physical stuff. This morning, I wake up to dirty dishes and a full trash can. He believes he is goin to be able to wake up around noon or whenever he feels like it and do them. They are all supposed to be done before bed. Are 25 pushups for each chore not done to harsh? I figure either chores will be done or he will be a in shape little boy.
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if having him do push ups isn't affecting him then try taking away his video games or something he likes. give him more chores than just the dishes and trash. being lazy at 14 is common. or give him something to work for like an allowance or staying up later. taking TV away might get him to do his chores also.
say that you will ban video games for one day for every chore he doesn't do. and hide an alarm in his room somewhere every day and set it for 8 am. change the hiding place everyday, so by the time that he has found the alarm he is less tired. push-ups aren't the best. But anyways, it's summer. cut him a bit of slack
Not so harsh, compared to what happens in some homes. Why not try a little positive reinforcement. Tell him you think he's looking a lot stronger after doing the pushups, and remind him of how much more the girls will like him with a strong build and see if he';d like a gym membership of some kind, or maybe offer to help him get a beginners weight set or a piece of gym equipment. He may even start thinking of sports. But you have to keep telling him and offering to help. Just a thought. And good on ya for being both brave enough and responsible enough to take custody of a teenage boy, brother or not.
You must love your brother very much to have taken custody of him. He must have been in a bad situation for this to have taken place. Bring your state of mind to when you were 14. This is a very delicate age going to adulthood. I think the push up idea is a little harsh. grounding from the vids untill the shower is taken would be much more effective. He also needs some kind of reward system such as (hey bro you did a great job this week lets go get some ice cream)His videos are an outlet to escape all the emotions flowing through him... take him to the creek and let him explore and throw rocks in the water and climb hills. its a good outlet for boys who are not interested in playing ball. Also quiet time and bonding for you 2 of you. Be careful not to tell him hes lazy this will only increase the laziness. (I might as well be lazy....she thinks I am anyway)
