My husband has always been a big cut up, laughing, carry on, being silly person. We have been together since high school, almost 11 years. Married for 8 of those 11. The past few months he has been down, lonely, and ill. He never laughs anymore. Me, or another family member can say something to him and while it is funny, he just replies yeah or something short. I have tried talking to him, writing him a letter, and he responds I'm fine. He has recently lost a lot of weight due to sugar problems. Don't get me wrong he was great before but now he is pretty hot! Help me help him or is there something I am missing.
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Miss Priss, it's nice that you are worried about your family, but it would be better if you would read a book now and then so you can at least give a clear explanation of what is wrong. "Lost a lot of weight" is medically significant, but "sugar problems" doesn't mean anything unless you explain the exact problems and how you determined what they are. "Great" and "hott" are meaningless when asking for advice.
There might be dozens of causes of your hubby's condition, but my guess is B vitamin deficiency. The first line of defense against depression and anxiety is B vitamins. Get nutritional yeast powder and/or B-100 pills. Vitamin B2 is a water soluble dye that turns urine bright yellow. When the color fades, it's time for another dose. Read some books about nutrition so you know how to eat right.
I could be wrong; maybe things got wonky at work. All you can do is ask him.
Communication is always key in a relationship. If you notice something is wrong, ask him about it. Sometimes it's hard to have a serious conversation, especially if you're used to always laughing and making jokes, but if you are concerned about him it is important to get his take on the situation. The only way you can find out how to help him is to ask him how to help him! We don't know you or your husband well enough to tell you specifically what to do, but your husband may know exactly what the culprit is. He may be feeling under the weather, he may be feeling depressed.... the only way to find out is to let him know you've noticed a change in him and ask him what you can do to help him feel better. Be supportive and be there for him in any way you can, and hopefully he will start to feel like himself again. Good luck!