I am 19, female, at college and still a virgin. I dance with guys at parties and such but I always break off. Should I simply be like "I'm a virgin, want to have sex?" or how should I ask the guy I'm dancing with to have sex, or should I wait to see if he asks? Also maybe guys don't even want to have sex with virgins, AH I'M SO SICK OF NOT HAVING SEX :(
Whatever you do, don't tell a drunk guy you're a virgin. He will do anything to get you into bed. The problem with that is that now he's thinking about himself getting off in your tight virgin pussy, instead of helping you go through this amazing event.
I'm not going to say it's a huge deal, but the thing is, it truly is something that only happens once. And it *can* hurt. You could bleed. I hurt for 2 days after mine.
What I'm saying is, it sounds like you're ready. But you should still be a bit cautious. The guy you pick is going to be *inside* you. And hopefully not hurt you. There's a fair amount of trust involved. You definitely don't want a drunk dude that's going to jackhammer your body and then fall asleep after he comes. Trust me, that SUCKS.
You want someone that's going to open you up, turn you on, and take you. Preferably he eats you out first and makes you come, and then again during sex. Good sex means the fulfillment of both partners, and a lot of guys forget that.
So, if I were you, I would find a guy that you know, that seems to be into you (and single!), and cultivate that relationship. See if you think he can do it and if you can talk him into it. Consider it a mission, let's call it operation clamshell. It'll probably take you a week or two, but it'll be worth it.
Sex is awesome, but don't forget to use protection (at LEAST a condom), and once you are sexually active, start going for yearly pap tests. Good luck & have fun!
Wow! That's quite a question!
My first instinct is to say don't do it like that! Wait till you meet a guy that means something to you. I totally understand craving sex but especially for your first time it's so worth it to have it actually mean something! One of the best parts of that time in your life is meeting someone you love and moving step by step towards your first sexual encounter. You will never have that type of giddy anticipation again! It's so worth it!!!!
If you are dead set on getting it outta the way I am absolutely certain you will have no problems finding a guy willing. But I hope you can find a good guy who is willing to take it slow and easy with you. If you're just wanting the sex with no strings have you considered a male friend. Obviously not a guy who is like a best friend because u don't want to mess up the friendship, but someone you feel you can trust who would be willing to make it special for you?
If that isn't an option look for someone you are at least acquainted with. Someone you have had a conversation with or studied with. Someone who doesn't seem to be a player. A player will most likely just be out to get his and you need someone who wants you to get yours too. Try flirting such as making eye contact a lot. Use your eyes guys really do watch for that and when he smiles genuinely smile back. After that he should come talk to you. Keep a little flirty smile on your lips and keep the conversation going. Try to keep it witty and make him laugh. When it seems appropriate look for some way to touch him. Such as when he says something funny reach out and brush his chest or arm if facing him, his leg if sitting next to or across from him. Keep his attention but if he leaves and doesn't come right back move on.
Once you decide on the guy find a way to get him alone. If inside say something like it's hot in here wanna take a walk? As you go out the door take his arm. Don't drape yourself on him but more casually very nonchalant like. By now he should have gotten the point u r into him. His concern will be trying to figure out how far u r wanting to go. Talk and flirt same as before but keep an eye out for a semi dark, quiet, semi private place where you can sit down next to him. As long as he is getting the vibe from you he should go in for the kiss. Allow some making out and maybe light petting over clothes if it's secluded enough. At this point you should suggest you guys go somewhere. Either ask if he'd like to come back to your place or if that isn't an option ask if there is someplace we could go. As your driving or walking keep up the convo don't let it get quiet and awkward. Before all of this you should have bought some condoms and have them with you! When you get to where you are going kiss him and let things develop naturally. Before you both are totally naked excuse yourself to the bathroom. Go potty! It's important! Then wash yourself, have a body spray of a light clean scent and use it lightly but not where you might be directly kissed or licked, it won't taste good. Make sure all is in order and go back to him as quickly as possible. This should be 3 minutes or less! Kiss some more if he doesn't go farther he isn't certain you will let him. TRUST ME HE WANTS TO! You should pick up his hand and place it on your breast or if feeling bold break the kiss to remove your shirt. Not feeling that bold? Remove his shirt. He should get the point that you are wanting to get naked. After that he should feel more assured that you are willing. If he is rushing through all this you should slow him down. This will be your only first time so take the time to enjoy it. As long as he thinks he is getting laid he won't bolt. At some point after clothes are coming off but before you are totally naked go for your condoms. When you hand it to him look deep in his eyes and say in a very soft voice your going to be my first so please be worth it and take it slow and easy with me. At this point he will most likely be extremely turned on. You might should consider a hand job so it lasts longer than a minute. If he stops you from bringing him to orgasim it's probably because he can last longer or is afraid it would take him a long time to get an erection again. Just go with what he wants in that case. Before having sex make sure he wears the rubber and that you are very wet down there. Don't expect to come your first time if you do then you're a lucky girl! Just a tip. Be an active participant, meaning don't just lie there. When he thrusts down u thrust up and vice versatility _. It will be better for both of you.
One thing to think about and decide if you are OK with before is if you plan to go about it this way realize it may only be a one night stand. Just because the guy takes your virginity doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you. You need to be prepared beforehand that that will be a very likely turnout.
Good luck and I hope it's everything you wish for!!!!
Just wait until you find the right guy. Lots of people I know regret losing their virginities to losers when they were way too young. Sometimes jerks aren't gentile and when it's your first time you need to be with someone who cares and loves you enough to go slow and help you through it.