So i am lonely. I have nobody to talk to. And sadly i dont know what to do to change this. Friends are very important to alot of people. And mine have thought less and less of me the longer ive known them. Id like a change. But everyone thinks im weird. And i am quiet. And i get embarassed easily. Please help. All awnsers welcome.
Sounds like you have the wrong friends.This ole man would be glad to be your friend.I'm a Christian & worked much with young people in my younger years & be glad to be friends with you.Meantime suggest looking for kids who are worthy to be friends with who won't try to mess you up with drugs or other things not so cool.
Wow, I completely know what your talking about, ive been described that way by almost everyone including myself, my perents are the same way, the only time they actually talk to me is when im getting kicked out or grounded for any reason they can find, and i usually dont say more then 4 or 5 sentences a day. But its really nice to find someone who knows how I feel too.
we are all ur friend u are not alone in the whole world...if he don't care about u so h's not a true friend .the friend is somone who you think your life would b different if he didn't exict.a friend is somone who never leaves u out.you are always inluded when u are with him.friend is there for u!no matter what
does this describe ur friend???
anyway !!!i can b ur friend i'm french girl living in usa now!!!
I used to be like you a little. When i was younger I lossed all my friends when i moved. I couldn't get anymore and I hated everyone. I was violent towards everyone. I got more friends by pushing my anger down and letting my funny side come out. I get more peoples numbers and I'm starting to get girls numbers. My suggestion for you is to find out how to become more funny talk more and wear todays style clothes. To be excepted by more people make sure you never smell bad and your breath never stinks. Always stand up for yourself and never be a push-over.
I had the same problem. I went to a christian private school and it was puny! The MOST kids we EVER had was 60 of them. In sixth grade, there were only 17. It shut down just as I finished my last year, sixth grade. And I went into the local public school, and I was kind of glad, because I got new friends. And I know one way to change friends. Squash the dreams of your friends now! It happened to me for no reason in second grade. Sophia was my friend and there was a new girl and whenever we played a game, she would say "NO KATHRYN! It's not your TURN!!!". Sophia loved purple and green, I know it's stupid, but now I can't stand to see those two colors together. Anyway, just cut them out. Quit emailing, texting, and hanging out with them. Then just look around when your in class to see if you can find someone like you. How old are you? Because IIIIII am weird. Hope I helped!
Babe im just like you, but i promise you as it gets older it gets better. If your friends don't care, they're no friends of yours. You need to follow these simple steps...
1. Make a change. You feel insecure as you are, so a good move is to change your style so you feel more confident. I've changed to be more "grunge" and i finally feel good about myself.
2. Understand you never need to change your personality. Clothes is one thing, character is something entirely. You have to love the way you are before you can expect other people to love you.
3. Surround yourself with good people. It sounds like you have a case of crap friends. I reccomend you go find a better crowd who will like you for who you are and respect and listen to you.
4. Smile and the world smiles with you. I know that sounds cheesy, but it works. My mum told me when i was depressed, and people respond much better to you if you don't look like you're about to cry any second.
5. Be confident. You need to show people you're in control of your life and then they'll like you for it. If you're weak you'll be used by others, and that sucks.
6. Don't let people get you down. In a couple of years you will never have to speak to these people again. Grin and bear it for now, it gets better!
Good luck xxx
Hello there Happy,
I Have the same personality type introvert/quiet verses being an extrovert/outspoken most of the time. And I'm. Christians too, just like the man who gave an answer before me. I learned thru the years to cope with ppl who weren't like me although they tried to make me feel guilty about me just being myself. I never followed a crowd that disinterested me and I always stood my ground when I made decisions to either go with the crowd or go alone. I'm not a pushover and when ppl try to bully me I always spoke to someone in authority, like a school principle, counselor, parent, trustworthy friend. Don't let anyone tell you your less important due to your personality type, you are just good at keeping your mouth shut when necessary verses blabbering about everyone's business. Many ppl would love to be like us, cool , laidback, very imaginative and intellectual, always coming up with new inventions and we're very open-minded, plus we can accomplish anything we set our minds to. Is that enough to make you feel better? All that I say is true and we'll tested over the years by people just like us. Wear that big smile you well deserve it!!!
When they ask for volunteers for something at school, stick your hand up! Get out there with some other volunteers. You all have one topic to talk about, the project you are helping with. You need to learn to socialize and even if it's a sentence here or there it's practice.
Does your school have clubs? Join one. If its something you understand and can do get your butt off the chair and go join! Again, you have a built in topic of conversation which is something you all have an interest in.
Start going to football or basketball games. I don't care if hate sports. Clamp a smile on your face and get out there and shout for the home team. You are all there to be supportive so you have a mutual topic of interest. People see you having fun and smiling and cheering you don't appear weird any more. You talk to some of them you don't sound weird. You see the same people then hi how are you hope we have something to cheer about and there is normal conversation.
Ask your mom if you can take up yoga, martial arts, gymnastics, dance or join a gym so you have an after school activity. It will build
self-confidence and you have something to talk about.
Invite a friend over for a movie and popcorn or just go out for coffee. Start small work up.