My boyfriend and I have had our ups and downs. I have a small temper, but I'm just a girl. We had a fun night drinking together at his house, he fell asleep on his couch and I went upstairs to wait for him, but I read his text messages... which i usually never do. I found a text to a random girl that said "your a babe" at 3 in the morning, and he was most likely drunk. I was really hurt by it, I never would do that to him, when I'm drunk I'm more conscious about my actions. But being drunk that night i was really upset and went to wake him up. I asked him "who was the babe, who was that, why would you do that" he wouldn't even wake up when I was talking to him, he had to go to bed anyways so i had to wake him up. But i was so angry I took his phone and slammed it on his chest. like a punch, Not too hard, enough to where he could feel it, but I don't hurt him. He was furious and slammed me down to the floor, squeezed my arms and hit me a lot, punching me. i kicked him for defense but he kept hitting me. At this point i was in shock because he was being so violent, it continued in his room he grabbed my face and slammed my body against the wall, when he did that he hurt my eye pretty badly, the contact fell out and my eyelid is bruised. I ran to my car to cry but couldn't drive because i was drunk. But he came out and was demanding me to get out of the car, threatening me and left dents in it from him punching it. I got out and went to bed with him. But slept no where near him, on the opposite side of the bed. I cried myself to sleep as he was telling me to shut up because i was being loud. and its my fault for hitting him first. He thinks I'm hypocritical because i hit him first. But when i hit him its like a girl. he hits me like a man, harder, and a lot more. I know its my fault for starting it, but Im just so hurt from that text. My eye, both arms and back are bruised. I left early in the morning the next day. He called 2 hours later not remembering anything. He doesn't understand what happened. and Im just appalled. I do feel like a hypocrite because i did hit him, but was it okay for him to go this far? He came over even though i told him not to, saying he was embarrassed doing this to me, he felt like he was set up bc i hit him while he was sleeping, he was apologizing to me. and its just so hard, i don't know what to do. He was drunk and vulnerable, but he totally crossed the line because I'm here with big bruises on both arms, and a bruised eye lid. We've had hitting problems before, a long time ago though. he tells me if i don't want to get hit back, i shouldn't hit him. but he hurts me so much more, i don't hit him back after, its not a fist fight or anything. Things just got out of control with him. I don't know if i should forgive him because he was drunk and i started it, or if this is really a problem. please help me. should i accept his apology, was everything really my fault, Its so hard for me to get rid of him, because we've been together for so long, did he cross the line?
you need to leave him. never love someone that treats you like you're ordinary. never love someone that treats you like a punching bag. it does'nt matter if he was drunk or not that was no excuse. you're better than that and you deserve someone that will treat you right. its hard to get away from someone you've been with for so long but its for the best. good luck, stay strong xx
Yes you hit first +he was asleep.......BUT
to continue punching you like that ?
Then justify it ?
Verbally + physically abuse you ??
No way should he be doing that !!!!!
Change yr locks,have you got somewhere
else to go?? Repot him to the Police + get
an Restraining Order.
Change phone/ mobile numbers etc.......
You need to get away from him as soon as
Yes,you hit him first,but what he did was way uncalled for. If he was defending himself against you that would be one thing,but he wasn't. Please trust your instincts on this one,you know what he did was not justified by you throwing the phone at him. Your boyfriend has serious issues that will only progress as your relationship progresses. Be smart and end this relationship before he does it again,but worse,you never know what could set him off the next time. He didn't hit you once and then stop(which still would be wrong)he continued to hit you and that means he beat you up. He is an abuser.
you nid to leave dis guy.... first of all you wen u hit him it was'nt dat aggeresive the way he hit u.... n u hav a reason to hit him.... wat reason does he has....?
he is sendin random text to other gals... d thing wch u did ws absolutely right... u sud hv given him two more slaps.... n its realy pathetic to c a guy hitin a gal...
dear u nid to move on....:(
clearly he has NO respect for YOU and YOUR property and is not a gentleman.Drunk or not no women should be treated like that by a man.and even tho it may be hard to part from him i probably is best,what all happened that night could have been alot serious and you could have been BADLY injured so it is probably safer for you to part from him. Wish you the best of best luck!
First don't feel bad and you should leave him he sounds like a real jerk. Don't feel to bad about hitting him first because you were both drunk. But he took it to far with hitting you even more. I think he would've gotten sober after the first time he hit you. Second I don't really think he thinks he did anything wrong because he also said it was your fault for hitting him first. That being said you need to dump him, contact the police, get a restraining order, and change all of your contact info.